Cash for a wedding gift list, how do we do it tastefully?

We%26#039;re getting married in the summer but already live together. We have all our own china, glasses, ben linen, the works!

What we really need are the bigger items, namely a new sofa. Ours is leather but is starting to look pretty cracked. I%26#039;m struggling to find somewere that we can ask for gift vouchers or something to put towards a sofa.

We have a John lewis gift list but they don%26#039;t sell corner sofa%26#039;s and the ones they do have are majorly overpriced.

Ideally I%26#039;d want to go to DFS or somewhere simialar but these places don%26#039;t have wedding gift lists.

How do I find a way of putting a sofa on our list for people to contribute to without having the horrible impersonalness of %26#039;cash donations%26#039;

Cash for a wedding gift list, how do we do it tastefully?bridge loan

Hey, we are having the same prob coz we have everything too. after much thinking tho i ahve decided NOT to put anything about gifts on the invite. Instead, we have prepped both sets of parents with the %26#039;we just want cash!%26#039; advice and they will be passing it on. I may include a short line on the extra info in friends invites purely because most of our friends weddings we have attended have mentioned gifts and have asked for money too! Something like - %26#039;as you know, we have been together X amount of years so a gift of cash would be much appreciated to help us do the house/build conservatory/pay for honeymoon! Or just put - to go towards a new sofa!

Just been reading some of these comments and to be honest most of them are relaly out dated! A lot of people these days welcome being informed about a gift list or cash. It saves people the hassle of trying to find a good gift! and if thats what the couple really want then great. if you dont like it then dont go to the wedding - im sure they will be pleased when they are saving 锟?0-70 per head on the meal, drinks, entertainment! get real guys - not everyone has mummy and daddy to pay for the wedding these days!

Cash for a wedding gift list, how do we do it tastefully?

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I wonder if the asker sent offensive e-mails to everyone who dared to think it was tacky of them to want money. Or perhaps I was the only one.

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|||IKEA vouchers?

They have a load of sofa%26#039;s.|||i was in natwest the other day %26amp; they were advertising a new giftcard where people buy you natwest cards which are actually cash!

sounds strange but worth visiting their website...?xXx|||Put the sofa on the registry. You can%26#039;t ask for cash at all without coming across as greedy and rude.|||Sorry, but asking for money is tacky. Why don%26#039;t you find somewhere that does sell the sofa that you want - even if it%26#039;s online, and register there. If they don%26#039;t have a registry, then just wait till after the wedding, and if you have to return some gifts for cash to buy the sofa, do that. Sorry.

I%26#039;m in the same boat as you, but there%26#039;s nothing we need nor want. We%26#039;re trying to find a way to tell people that we don%26#039;t expect/want anything but their company, but if they want to do something, that we%26#039;d like them to make a donation to charity.

Good luck!|||when will brides ever friggin%26#039; learn!!!!!!!

haven%26#039;t you ever been taught you never ask for money?

you never assume you%26#039;ll get gifts?

gifts are optional?

no one likes being solicited for cash?

i could go on and on but surely by now even you have figured out what i%26#039;m saying! there is no tasteful way of asking for money, however, knowing the two of you are already shacked up i am sure your guests aren%26#039;t so stupid as to not be able to figure out you don%26#039;t want %26#039;stuff%26#039; you want cash!|||At your wedding reception, tell guests that you are going to do a traditional Indian wedding dance. This involves you dancing round the floor to Indian music. When you dance past a guest, they are expected to pin money to your dress. I have seen it done before and it is amazing how much you can collect.

On reflection I think it was a Jewish dance.|||we got married in may and went through the same thing....Try to get the word through friends rather than you saying it as to be honest we were asked by numerous people and family what did we want and we replied,we have everything so a voucher or money would be grately appreciated..

o.m.g some people got so offended they didnt even show up.spread the word before you send out invitations..that seemed to work...

no one wants stuff you already have..

STAY BRAVE|||You know it%26#039;s classless and tacky, yet you don%26#039;t care and you want cash? Nice.

If and ONLY IF people ask, spread the word that there is no gift registry. This will send the message that people should give cash, pick out a gift, or send a gift card.

Then be grateful for whatever you get. You%26#039;re not getting married to get a new couch, right?|||Cheap, Cheap, Cheap. It%26#039;s not about stuff OR money! Its a wedding. But, thats obviously not important to you. It%26#039;s a what can we get out of this thing. So you get 40 toasters. Just laugh.

Don%26#039;t say %26quot;Damn nothing from IKEA then! People have at least made an effort! I hope you and yours have a materialistically happy life together. Sorry about John Lewis and the corner sofa.

Must be very hard for you both.|||Spread the word amongst both sets of parents and the bridal party that you would prefer cash instead of gifts. Go and see the store where there is a sofa that you have your eye on and ask if they have some sort of registry facility or even a furniture store that sells gift cards like Ikea. I was in the same situation that you are and my husband and I are about to start re-decorating so we asked for and got gift cards from a local hardware store so we could buy paint etc. As a guest myself I would rather give the happy couple something they WANT and if that%26#039;s cash then so be it.|||just tell the people that ask what you want. tell them you are saving for furniture. You shouldnt put it anywhere on the invitation. If you get duplicates, just return then for cash and use that toward the couch|||There isn%26#039;t a way to do it tastefully. Sorry. I do know that lots of people give cash at the wedding, so I guess you can just wait for that. Or return what they get you for cash...|||So your saying you would rather be tacky and tasteless than polite to your friends and family? How very odd.|||There is no polite way to do what you want to do and you know it. You are looking for someone to give you permission to be rude and tacky and it%26#039;s just not going to happen.|||Ok...here is my standard answer as this gets asked at least once a week.

If you want cash (or a sofa), simply DO NOT register anywhere. Please, please, please, give your guests some consideration that they have a brain. Once a guests check out a few of the regular stores that brides normally register at....and they see you are not registered,......well....then you will get cash.

You asked for a way around it....and I that is the solution.

I get a kick out of brides like you that say....you don%26#039;t want %26quot;600 towel sets.%26quot; Again....do you not think your guests have a brain? If you indeed register for %26quot;gifts%26quot; = towels, bedding, kitchen appliances....that is the point. Why would you get 600 towel sets? When I pick up a gift registry, I see what is still %26quot;needed%26quot;.....if you get 600 towel sets then that would mean that YOU registered for 600 towel sets. As a guest, I buy what is listed on the registry. Once an item is purchased, it is taken off the registry. That%26#039;s how registries work.

I%26#039;m sure you were using that hypothetically, but really, give your guests a little credit. They are not stupid.|||Why don%26#039;t you list a few throw cushions on your registry and spread by word of mouth that you are trying to save for a new lounge/sofa

or invest in hiring a wishing well where you can suggest in a poem that if guests wish to participate they could contribute to your lives together by donating towards a new lounge as it is something you really want but do not expect one guest, or family to fork out thousands for|||Well, I almost left without comment, but I just couldn%26#039;t let it go. You are frustrated with everyone here because you want someone to tell how to tastefully do something that is tacky. If you don%26#039;t need anything but a sofa, then why not have your wedding and invite everyone on your list for the reason they are supposed to be invited anyway--the honor of their presence and let it leak that all you want is their presence--that%26#039;s presence not presents and buy your own couch.|||How many more times must this same question be asked, over and over and over and over again, I%26#039;m so tired of it, the answer will always be the same, it%26#039;s rude, there is no polite way to do this, some people suggest %26quot;word of mouth%26quot; by your mother or MOH, but there will never be a nice way of doing this, you can dress it up with all the cute poems you want, it is and always will be rude.|||I wouldn%26#039;t dream of going to a wedding without bringing a present. Weddings aren%26#039;t cheap and it%26#039;s not like you%26#039;re asking your guests for an entrance fee or anything! As a guest you get a meal, entertainment and sometimes drink all paid for for you, the least you can do is buy a decent present or put 20 quid/voucher in an card for the couple. We were lucky enough to get a couple of hundred quids worth of vouchers for ours which we put towards something we really wanted as we had also been living together for a few years and had enough toasters, towels etc, etc. Don%26#039;t feel awkward about it, most people will give you money or vouchers anyway because they won%26#039;t really have a clue what to get you.

Good luck!|||We had a lot of good comments on what we had put..........

We ask for your presence not your presents but if you wish to get us a gift we would appreciate vouchers for.......... as we are saving up to buy a few larger items for our home!!

People commented on this being a good way of putting it!|||A poem sent with the invites is a good way.... letting people know why u want money instead.... i.e so u can buy a sofa!

Most people are more understanding these days %26amp; appreciate the money request!

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We understand you may wish to buy us a very special gift

and if you wish to do so, your kindness wont be missed

We really need new furniture, an expensive present we wouldnt ask. But we would be able to buy some soon, if we received the gift of cash.

What ever you wish to do for us, we appreciate it -its your call.

Your attendance on our special day is what matters after all.

Howzat for a quick poem? lol|||Me and my husband are renewing our vows in 2 years time. My friend asked if we wanted money or presents, but i didn%26#039;t think people would actually buy us anything or give us money, because it%26#039;s not a wedding as such. All you can do is spread the word about wanting the money. Ask your mum/friends to tell people about the money if anyone should ask her. People will soon cotton on! I think that is whatwe will be doing. Have fun on your day xx|||Put American Express gift cards on your registry card.

You can use this wherever you want!